A little Clarification

            Earlier this week, I gave a presentation on why a company should hire me. Instead of the traditional approach to the question, I took the polar approach and talked about why I did not want to work for the company. I talked about the goal of being happy, rather than the goal of working. However, what I skimmed over was the fact that work and happiness can indeed be synonymous!

Finding the job that will make you both happy and prosperous is an exceedingly rare occurrence. I am not a man who cares too much for material possessions. I am a man of comfort. The main thing I want in life is to be comfortable and content with my situation. I desire to see the world. I firmly believe that life is too short to be living someone else’s dream. I felt I needed to clarify a few things in regards to my perspective on the assignment.

           

My approach was not one of laziness, but rather sincerity. I did not mean to make it seem as though I was copping out on the assignment. In my academic life, I am a highly motivated student who strives to do well. Quite frankly, I have no idea what I’m doing with my life. For now, I’m taking courses I find interesting and that will better me in my life (whatever that may entail is yet to be seen!). I do well for myself, not to satisfy some future employer’s outline of who I should be. It is easy for me to be cynical about the world of work, especially at my age.

I’m a 19 year old student who has only ever worked at McDonald's. I absolutely hated the job, but I made it my own for the year and a half I worked there. I was the guy who sang and danced while working, rather than dismally accepting my minimum wage fate. This is not to say I did not do well with the job. In fact, in the short time I was there, I was given three raises, was made employee of the month and was one of the top ranked employees in the store. The traditional approach to work is not always the best approach!

           

In reality, I take my work very seriously. My work reflects who I am as an individual. In regards to the presentation, I felt I conveyed who I am as a person. I am merely a person who works for his own merit. I do things in a manner that I find pleasing and engaging. I did not wish to bore the class with my buzz words of “dependable,” “punctual” and “interpersonal” skills. It was certainly a presentation that made the class stop and listen. They were both amused and engaged. After the class was over, I heard comments about how I would either do really well for going against the trend, or fail miserably. It is not always about the grade though. Success or failure on the assignment will not break me as a person.

We as students get so caught up in achieving a letter grade. The grade itself only represents a fraction of who we are as individuals. I hope you all got something out of my approach to the assignment, even if it was merely a laugh at that “Quirky Murphy.” I did not mean to leave my presentation incomplete. To explain my philosophy on life would take many days and require you to know more about the experiences that have made me in who I am today.

Simply put, I believe that the world is much bigger than the workplace or the classroom. In the end, I do not want my life to be a collection of wasted nights working at a desk in a job I hate. The paycheque is part of the equation, but it really doesn’t matter in the end. You can’t take it with you when you finally do go. I hope to live a meaningful life, filled with knowledge and experiences. When all is said and done, we’ll all have done whatever worked for our prerogative. 

The brain is a wonderful organ; it starts working the moment you get up in the morning and does not stop until you get into the office.

-Robert Frost


*Laura asked me to post the video so here it is! 
 

Live Well, Laugh Often

             I have found that I tend to be rather verbose when it comes to these blogs. However, today I intend on being rather brief. I generally try not to take myself too seriously in my personal life, but I occasionally have a moment of significant insight. I’ve recently been doing a little research on the subject of “life” in my spare time. I merely have a handful of simple quotes I would like to share with you all.

“Is life not a thousand times too short for us to bore ourselves?” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

 “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.” ― George Bernard Shaw

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ― E.E. Cummings

“Get busy living or get busy dying.” ― Stephen King, The Shawshank Redemption.

          Each one of these quotes gives me pause in the hustle and bustle of my day-to-day life. I hope these quotes can provide you with a measure of insight or perhaps only a moment of reflection on your own lives. If they do nothing for you at all, I hope you have other things that might give you a momentary pause in your busy lives. Above all, be sure to live your lives well and to laugh often.

Familial Responsibility

          I must admit, I completely forgot about posting a blog this past week. I had fallen into a comfortable system of posting every Friday over the past 9 weeks. However, this Friday I was rather distracted and fell out of my normal routine. As disconcerting as this may be for my classmates, they can only imagine how shocking it is for me to fall out of routine! Naturally my first thought was to post a blog as quickly as possible in a futile attempt to remedy my forgetfulness.

My distraction has spawned from the fact that my parents are going away this weekend. My parents leave in a couple of hours to go away to Jamaica to celebrate their 24^th wedding anniversary. Since they’ll be away for a week, I’ll be in charge of the Murphy household. This has made me wonder about the responsibility I hold in my personal life under normal circumstances, as well as extenuating circumstances such as these.

         In general, I oversee the minor details of the household. I occasionally cook, I often (obsessively) clean, but I maintain my role as a sibling rather than a guardian. I have been quite fortunate when it comes to my family life. My little sister is an excellent student, a lovely child and generally a good person. I don’t foresee there being any problems while the parents are away, but it is somewhat intimidating that I’m in charge of her well being. Mind you, I consider myself to be a rather competent individual but such a great degree of personal responsibility is... daunting to say the least. I have intentionally lived my life only having to care for my own needs. I love my family deeply, but I prefer not to have to worry about the well-being of others.

          This has made me look at my life in a broader spectrum. I am certain that I am nowhere near parenthood. I neither have the means or intention to have children until I have at least established a career base (which could be anywhere between 3-8 years from now). I don’t mind taking care of my little sister, heck, I even enjoy it! She is not a rebellious teen, nor is she overly rambunctious. Our sense of humor is quite similar. The only major difference is that she is a social butterfly while I am the social pariah. I have taken care of her before, but never in a situation where I will be in control for an extended period of time. I do not relish the idea of being a caregiver, even if only temporarily, but I shall attempt to carry the mantle as best I can! 

          

Fortress of Solitude

          The past week has been an exceptionally stressful one. I’ve realized that sleep is a distant idea; an entertaining notion at best. March is a month of papers, assignments and the very brink of tedium! I am rather exhausted and there is still so much left to do! In general, I would consider myself to have a fairly relaxed personality. However, when faced with a plethora of anxiety-inducing assignments, my relaxed personality flees. Just sitting here writing this blog is significantly exhausting my intellectual reserves. Mind you, I always have the ability to indulge in my thoughts.

         I actually was discussing something rather fascinating with an old friend of mine yesterday. I posed the open-ended question “do you ever wonder?” Naturally the response was a definite “Of course!” Continuing in the exercise, I asked her what made her wonder. I laughed at the simple and yet resounding answer. “What doesn’t?” They went on to tell me that they had just been sitting watching the birds fly earlier that day and were wondering why can’t we fly? Naturally, I didn’t have any answers, merely more questions. It was just another one of a billion or so questions that fascinate and amuse me.

           

          I was indulging in my own fantasies of wonderment at the same time. I had always wished I had been born a prodigy, a child with some sort of advanced intelligence. Alas, I was rather simple. As a child, I was somewhat inept. I started school at the age of 4, and it was questioned whether I should be held back. I had trouble with the simplest of tasks and was relatively under-developed for my grade. However, I was given a chance to redeem myself. Continuing throughout school I was a rather mediocre student, merely portraying myself as intelligent. The reality of the matter simply was that I took solace in books. I was no more or less intelligent than any other average child. The only advantage I had was my voracious appetite for more books. Books were an intellectual haven, with characters that were relatable, plots that were shocking, and worlds that only exist in the mind. We all have our havens. My mind is my fortress of solitude.  

 

            

Heavenly Scented Candles!

            In regards to today’s entry, I would like to talk about something rather random. As of late, I’ve become rather attached to scented candles. I know what you’re thinking, “Scented Candles? I knew Adam was awesome!” Naturally you would be correct in your conclusion. I came across the candles when my little sister was selling them for a school fundraiser. I figured I should be the decent older brother by purchasing a few. The fact of the matter is that they are fantastic! 

The two I purchased include a three tiered candle that starts off as apple pie, then smells of cinnamon and ends with vanilla. The second is chocolate peppermint sticks. As I’m writing this, I’m burning the apple pie portion of the candle. I must admit, more than anything it’s making me desperately want a slice of apple pie with vanilla ice cream. I can’t speak for anyone other than myself, but apple pie is one of the biggest motivators in my own life (both real and synthetic versions it would seem). 

For me, it does not only smell quite lovely, but is also quite relaxing. I find this time of year to be rather stressful. Having to write multiple papers, assignments and work on a multitude of group projects makes Mr. Murphy somewhat of a madman. Having any remote means whatsoever to keep me relaxed is not something to be taken lightly! I am a man who likes to keep himself as relaxed as humanly possible regardless of situation. Not only are they relaxing, but they add a lovely ambiance to my room. The lingering scent of apple pie awaits me every time I walk into my room. 

          Another great thing about these candles is that they are supposed to burn for approximately a hundred hours. As well as the long life of the candle, the smell is not sacrificed by its longevity. Though they are not exactly cheap, ($20 for two) they certainly last much longer than any standard candle and smell far better. The way I see it, for every 10 hours of the candle burning I am only paying a dollar. Certainly a fair bargain for something that smells delicious enough to eat!